Watching the Olympics this week I can't help but to feel emotional. I am more aware than ever of the commercials, coverage, and highlights that feature the Athlete's parents and support network. And it makes me super emotional! Especially watching the swimming coverage. It brings back memories of my childhood and adolescence. Old friends, the incredible support of my parents, and the bond I had with my coach. It brings back all the life lessons I learned in the pool and out. It makes me wish that I could go back, and relive some of those years. It motivates me to get in shape and potentially back into the sport itself. It makes me thankful and yes, a bit sad too.
I am flashing back 2 years ago when I was in the final days of having my Son. I was working a full time job at the time so one thing on the checklist was preparing and planning for maternity leave. In the States FMLA allows you to take up to 12 weeks leave when you have a baby. I just remember the feeling at the time. It was like I preparing to take a nice long vacation away from it all. No laptop. No emails to check on my iphone. No work phone calls. Just me and my new little baby for the next 12 weeks. Haha a vacation. How naive I was. Things for me have changed drastically since that time. I am no longer working and we live in yet another place. The thing I am wondering though is, what is an acceptable amount of time for stay at home mom's to recover?
Last night we were awaken to our Son crying hysterically and breathing so hard. He was still sleeping but was upset and was acting out in a really dramatic way. It took us about 15-20 minutes to calm him down and get him out of this hysteria. It was awful. He just held on to us but never really woke up. Eventually he did stop screaming and slept sound the rest of the night.
Have you ever been stuck in a place where mentally you tend to always see or hear the negative? Someone says something and you take it personally. You feel stressed out by everything and everyone. The little annoyances become too much. The only way to escape the negative spiral is to make the intentional change starting with tackling negative thoughts and reactions. Our thoughts are the most powerful tool we have to influence our surrounding environment. The simple changes in our thoughts can make a large impact.
A couple days ago I read an article in a popular parenting magazine about how video games are actually good for kids now. What? People spent almost a decade or so convincing parents that they are damaging their child by letting them play video games, and now the same experts are saying that video games are actually good for kids?
As a parent you naturally want the best for you children. You want them to be successful in life, you want them to be happy. The challenge as a parent in today's world is how do you allow all these experiences to become a reality for your children? When judgement happens so quickly and parenting mistakes are continually scrutinized. When ordinary things cost so much. When there is a rule and regulation for everything. When there are some truly sick and psycho predators in the world. When everyone is offended by everything. When the extraordinary gets so much attention.
I am now less than 4 weeks away from the delivery of my second child. As I mentally prepare myself for what's to come I am focusing my energy on being as stress free, worry free, and as relaxed as possible. Now and after the baby comes. I know the lack of sleep is going to get to me. I will manage that as best I can. I know I will need help and I will gladly accept when appropriate this time around. I know I am going to be a good Mom, because I already earned that badge. I am going to try and focus less on the hard parts and more on the good parts of having a newborn.
When a person who works outside the home returns from their job and vents it's seen for what it is. They've had a hard day. The demands of the job merit a little venting or complaining accompanied by a drink, a nice relaxing moment on the couch, and uninterrupted TV time to catch up on the days news. You work hard, you deserve it. There are several things I miss about working outside the home. One of those things is having the ability to vent about your job. Why when a mom opens her mouth and says something even remotely close to venting about her 'job', people want to jump in and offer advice or try to find solutions to give her a day off. On top of it all, later she will be consumed with her own self inflicted mom guilt.
A while ago a friend of mine introduced me to the idea of staying in tune with your inner being. That feeling you get inside, the vibes you give and receive from the universe. Before every single major life change I have experienced I have practiced this type of meditation and inward reflection. When I feel like things in my life are not what I want I dig deep and tap into my inner self. I figure out what I want and why I want it. I figure out what it is that I want, not from a place of lack, but from a place where I can grow and improve.
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